It is quite amusing when speaking to people, how you can pick up their blocks that they are building around themselves, all to the detriment of our own happiness.
Why is it that we naturally place deal breakers in place when building relationships?
Is this based on past experiences we have been through, or seen these happen in other people’s lives, or are we being indoctrinated by society, organizations and religion?
I have a friend that is so in love with someone of a different religion and has conditions in place for the special someone to convert to their religion before any sort of relationship can proceed. In my opinion, religion is a personal belief and something that should not be imposed onto someone else. But this person is denying themselves a potentially perfectly normal, happy and fulfilling relationship / soul mate / marriage and family based on someone else’s religious beliefs.
Personally my relationship deal breakers are based on abuse: Physical, alcohol and drug abuse to be exact. Coming from a household where this was so rife, I had to make a stand and vow never to be in that situation again. So as soon as I see these traits come out in someone, I remove myself from that situation.
Infidelity is a hard one, as this can take on many forms. Emotional infidelity, to me, has left the deepest scar. It is almost like the physical act does not compare to the lying, deceit and betrayal you feel on discovering your partner has not been honest. In fact, that they have been fabricating another life in order to cover up the infidelity.
What other barriers are we building with regards to friendships, work and adventure that we are cementing into firm beliefs? Truths that cannot be broken, even to our own detriment and happiness?
